Online Communities
My question with tools such as match, myspace, friendster, and all the other many online communities is what is lost?
It is easy to see what is gained. It is much easier to make buddies playing halo, then it is to make a meaningful relationship walking down the street. It is easier to get friends on myspace then it is to have friends you can go cry to. The convenience is great! Even if you are ugly, socially inept, whatever, you can make friends easily online. For those who would have been outcast before, can have a great community online. At what cost?
It seems like fake relationships. To me relationships that are meaningful hurt. They are close enough to hurt and bring great joy. You get frustrated with your close friends when they don’t live up to their potential. You cry with them when they are in pain. It seems like the relationships on myspace delight in others misfortune. They don’t get close. Some research shows that they enable more real relationships, but its hard for me to see. The time you spend on myspace, we could be together. And yes they help with long distance, but wouldn’t it be better to get to know people close to you? It just seems so much deeper.
As for online dating, like match, and eharmony. People say they now are just like personals in the paper. To me, that is still horrible! If you want to meet someone who likes hiking go hike, if you like someone who likes going to a bar, go to bars to meet them. You like baseball, go to a game! If you go online, what are you getting that you can not get in person? It seems like everyone I know who LIVES their life to the fullest, is surrounded by amazing and wonderful people. It seems like oh, its online, they’ll match me with someone stops people from going out and experiencing life. If you don’t have time for that, you don’t have time for a relationship either…
But then, I’ve seen quite a few happy couples come from the online dating world. So, what do I know…
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